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Andrina is back!

Hola, everyone!  Andrina is back.  Thank you for all the messages and emails.  I also made public some of the posts I set as private.  I might make public even more posts.  Watch out.

As for blog updates that will be forthcoming.  Be patient, ladies and gents.  

It’s good to be back.  Thank you for the kind messages.  

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Posted by on June 22, 2014 in Uncategorized



There are no permanent friends. There are no permanent enemies. As in showbiz and politics, there are only permanent interests in the gay bar. What are permanent interests, you might ask? Well, what else? Money, money, money.


Jessica used to think that Red is a true friend or at least a brother type. Well, they lost touch and didn’t even bother to greet each other when they respectively celebrated their 2012 natal days.

Jessica was annoyed when Red flirted with her via SMS and tried to ask her out on a date. That was the straw that broke the camel’s back for her.


Lito the MD was closest to Ella though Jess also found him nice. He recently made his presence felt to announce that he’s back in Earthling. I guess he hoped the three of us will visit him and shower him with drinks. Well, he thought wrong. More so after his no-show at a dinner specially organized after he hinted that he missed hanging out with us.

I honestly doubt that he missed hanging out with us. He probably just missed the drinks and tips.


I’m still in touch with Luigi though I haven’t seen him in a while. Luigi is no longer a kid these days. He at least doesn’t look like one. Our relationship stayed the same though. Luigi knows his place and he knows the only reason why he’s still in touch with me whereas Jess and Ella both lost touch with any MD is because I saw him, Luigi, in a familial way.

Luigi is someone I will try to help in ways I can but I know it won’t be a two way street. He’s not someone I’ll run to in case I’m feeling down or sad. He’s more a ward of mine than a friend. That’s fine though. I’d rather be the one helping than be the one in need.


Karl also forgot about Bimby’s birthday. The two are no longer in touch. Karl has moved on and has no more fond feelings for Bimby. Oh well. That’s how the cookie crumbles.


Keith recently asked how the girls and I were doing. That was a surprise. Ha.


Jonas and Lea have called it quits. Jonas is now with a woman who used to be with another MD. The merry go round continues.

Even Jamie is now with yet another different woman. Not the girl he got pregnant, not the bar girl whose been with many MDs. Lalala.


Pipay is also communicating with me less and less. From everyday SMS forwards it’s now down to weekly. I guess not getting any tips lessens the motivation to communicate with us. 😀


There is no surprise on my part, no bitterness whatsoever. I’ve already accepted that it’s just a fact: money is the focus and it’s what makes the world goes around in the gay bars.

The girls and I are still friends though. Same with Karl and myself. That much I’m sure of and thankful for.


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Things change. Life evolves. Yet somehow some things remain the same in essence. This is true for the gay bars as it turned out.


As for us girls who just want to have fun, well, we’re immersed in many non-gay bar related stuff right now. Life happens, yes. However the more things change the more they stay the same in essence. Looks can be deceiving though and things may not be what they seem from afar. Riddles, riddles.


I again chanced upon Liam’s Demi recently in the same coffee shop as before. She was again with her gay bar going friends. I like Demi as far as gay bar guests go. However, I recently found out that Demi is now into Bruce, an MD barely out of his teens, who used to be an item with a bar girl Demi is friendly with. That seems crazy and hence, plausible. Sigh.


I recently pointed out to Ella that Carlo seems fatter nowadays. Ella agreed and on the same breath said that Carlo looks cute still. Indeed no hurt from the past can change Ella’s objective eyes that see Carlo as the handsome man he is.

Still about Carlo, we also found out that Carlo’s Ella is now with her lawful spouse again though it’s obvious Carlo is still the one her heart yearns for.

On another note, we also learned that Ramon is again at the top of his game as an MD and is topping the charts in the gay bar. Oh well. Good for him, I guess? Ella, when she learned that that Ramon is again the creme of the crop, asked me if Jess and I were still going to the bars and hence making Ramon recipient of countless drinks that would make him top MD. Ha-ha.

Robbie is now back as an MD in his bar. He still insists it’s a ‘temp job’ only for the holiday season. We’ll see. Lazybones like him won’t really do well in jobs that require effort. Being an MD seems the easiest job he can do.


MDs and bar girls left and right are still hooking up and breaking up. Same with MDs and guests. Deceptions are discovered and break-ups are the results. Yawn.

Indeed some things never change. The only thing constant is change.


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Some MDs view macho dancing as a temp job. It’s a for now kind of thing for some of them. Some MDs claim that they work as MDs to enable them to finish school or to afford a parent’s medical expenses or to send a sibling to school. Those who grow old gyrating usually got taken in by the big (seemingly) easy money they received from guests who went crazy over them. All they had to do was butter up a guest into giving them money and other material goods. When the guest is not repulsive then all the more does being sweet and physical get easy. Sometimes an MD plays the role of ‘friend’ to a guest who’s into another MD who’s not available or whom the guest had a quarrel with. Easy cash. Be a shoulder to lean on and play cupid in exchange for drinks and tips and possibly more.


If you’ve been reading this blog then you know about Robbie the MD. He wanted to go out but I wasn’t up to it. I knew that nothing would materialize between us. Nothing lasting or worthwhile, that is.

Robbie the MD has stayed in touch with me. He was a bum for many months, living off his parents and siblings in the province. He enjoyed drinking with his friends and playing billiards every night. Bum, bum, bum.

Recently Robbie said all his drinking buddies were already gainfully employed. He grew bored and worked a job that earned him minimum wage. He ain’t happy though. As my friend Karl said, Robbie probably misses the tips that he used to get when he was still an MD.


Robbie intends to go back to being a macho dancer. Why? According to him, Christmas is fast approaching and he wants to have money to properly celebrate Christmas. Robbie doesn’t intend to report for work everyday though and again, he insists that it’s a temp job. Sigh. Poor guests who will be sucked into turning over money to Robbie. Robbie is quite good at what he does and I’m sure he will find some willing and able guests if he does return to macho dancing for the holidays.

What about after the holidays? Will Robbie return to being a bum? Or will be return to being a minimum wage earner? Or will the allure of big money for little to no effort whatsoever be too tempting for Robbie? Only time will tell if Robbie’s macho dancing days will be a temp job as he claims or if he will be tempted by the possibilities the job offers.


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GIRLS JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN: MDs and Bar Girls break up, too

We’ve mentioned in this blog a couple of times that a lot of MDs have bar girls for a girlfriend/wife. They seem to understand each other better since they are in the same line of work. Well, no one is immune from break-ups nowadays. Not even the MDs and bar girls who seem to be made for each other.


Garrett and his bar girl girlfriend broke-up a few months back. Garrett was caught cheating. Garrett now stays at the club he works for. The poor heartbroken girl went home to her parents. It seems like she’s still licking her wounds and is still not yet ready to go back to work or to do anything other than play homemaker at her parents’ home.


Gabriel and the bar girl he slashed himself over last year are now broken up as well. Did the bar girl play around with Red again or with Nicholas or another MD? No. It was Gabriel this time who was caught cheating. Well, girl, what comes around goes around, eh?

The bar girl who used to fancy Red and then many other MDs before finally going steady with Gabriel seems to have fallen hard for Gab. She’s now heartbroken.


Aljur and his girl are on the rocks. Why? Well, because of another girl. Is there a pattern here somewhere? It seems like it’s the MD who plays around and when caught, it leads to a break-up. So far none of the recent situations I learned about were brought about by the bar girl cheating. It was always the MD who was caught cheating.


Seems like nothing is permanent nowadays. If MDs and bar girls who seem so compatible with each other in many ways (they are both attractive enough, young enough and do the same work that they cannot judge each other unfairly) still break-up, then all the more should gay bar regulars who enter into a relationship with MDs be careful.


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Indeed life sometimes goes full circle. And there are odd connections here and there. In my case, I find it really interesting albeit a tad creepy that Keith is now abroad. No, his being abroad is not the creepy detail. It’s the fact that he’s now in the exact same town in the exact same country where I once lived. Happily, at that.

I have so many fond memories of that country and that quaint little town. To think that Keith could be going to the same places I used to frequent is the creepy part for me. I even told Keith a little about that country when I still got to talk to him. Keith was always interested to hear about that country.

No, Keith does not know that it was that particular town he’s now residing in that I was telling him about a year ago.

I was just recently thinking that I missed that country and that quaint little town. In fact, had things fallen into place the way I wanted it to, I would have been in that quaint little town this month. Maybe I wasn’t able to go there as planned because I wasn’t supposed to run into Keith in the local supermarket or friendly little market? It definitely would have been very strange for me if I ran into Keith abroad.

I now wax philosophical about me getting to know Keith. Does the fact that he’s now in the exact same town I used to live in play a factor in the ‘why’ we had to meet? Did I end up growing fond of Keith because I was meant to tell him a little about the country he would apparently move to a year later? I don’t know. Perhaps not. Still, it’s a little bit too much a coincidence for me. The circle of life always is.




Right now the Filipino movie The Mistress is making waves at the box office.  I have to admit though that I enjoyed last year’s blockbuster No Other Woman more.  So how does this all relate to the gay bar which is the primary topic of this blog?

Well, for one, ‘the mistress’ in the hit movie does not live the life of a typical mistress.  The typical mistress is a kept woman who doesn’t work an eight to five (be it day or night) anymore but instead, just lives in the home/room/unit her benefactor got for her.  The typical mistress lives for the day when her benefactor will visit her and get his money’s worth.  A good number of bar girls become mistresses. What about MDs then?



The mistress, by definition, is a woman in a relationship with a married man. What about a man in a relationship with a married woman? Well, the said man is labeled a paramour.  Sadly, a good number of MDs are paramours.  A good number of female guests in the gay bar are very much married.  Hence, MDs who get in a relationship with these women become paramours.


How Paramours differ from Mistresses

How do paramours differ from mistresses? Well, very few paramours are actually put up in a condo unit or home.  Most just meet the married women on the sly in restaurants, hotels or the like.  Even those made to stop working still go home to their mothers or boarding houses.  Married women are not really in the habit of getting homes/units for their paramours to live in.  Very few do that.

Even Nanette who made Aaron her kept man did not put him up in a house or condo unit.  She just gave him an allowance so Aaron will stop reporting to the bar in exchange for meeting Nanette at a restaurant twice a week.  Heaven knows where they went after dinner.  Aaron still went home to his parents’ house though and Nanette still went home to her children.



Mistresses and paramours are both recipients of borrowed time from a married person.  Mistresses and paramours are third parties in the relationship.  They are the ones kept a secret and the ones who are dispensable. 


I look forward to a Filipino movie about the life of a paramour. 

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