Are you a gay bar regular? Go on reading if your answer was yes. Go on anyway even if your answer was no especially if you intend to be one or feel that you will eventually be one.
Are you ashamed to be a gay bar regular? If not yet a regular, will being one eventually be something you think you’ll be ashamed of? (Answer in your mind)
Are you scared that you will run into someone you know in the gay bar? (Answer in your mind and be honest!)
Will you vehemently deny it if someone tells you they think they saw someone who looked like you in a gay bar the other night (and you know it was you they saw)? (Is your answer to everything I’ve asked so far yes?)
The questions I asked are rather difficult questions. Why? Because being a gay bar regular is not for everyone. It’s also not as simple as say, being a regular at a particular salon. Being a gay bar regular is something you enter with eyes wide open and well aware of the possibilities you might encounter in the bar and even outside because of your activities in the bar.
HEAD HELD UP HIGH
So someone you know saw you inside a gay bar. What exactly were you doing? If you were just watching the show, drinking or talking to an MD then why panic? It’s different if you’re very much married though. Have a good excuse. More so if you were seen getting physical with an MD despite being very much taken.
It’s also good to throw the question back. What was Tita doing in the gay bar herself? Did Tito know that Tita was a regular of gay bar X? Ha-ha!
If you’re not doing anything illegal and not doing something against your personal rules of conduct then head help up high, sister.
If you feel or know for certain that you will regret being a gay bar regular then don’t be one. Or stop being one ASAP. There’s no room for regrets though. Why regret something you wanted at a particular point in your life?
I cannot speak for the girls and Karl but I do not regret my gay bar going days. True, it’s not something I will talk about openly just to anyone. Still, I know for a fact that the entire gay bar going phase helped me get through a tough time in my life. I had my share of fun as well. No regrets for this girl who just wants to have fun. 🙂